How to ‘Joyfully Negotiate’ Rather Than Argue!

The Art of Joyful Negotiation.

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I was giving a couple a clairvoyant reading recently when a brusque, no nonsense relative came through. She was the kind of lady with whom you always knew your place. She had a heart of gold but wouldn’t think twice about giving you short shrift if you needed it. There were no mincing of words in her household and a clip around the ear wouldn’t have been balked at either!

 

She was in the process of sharing some information with my clients when she gave them an instruction that had a very clear phrase attached to it:

 

joyful negotiation.

 

She told them to write this phrase on their fridge as a constant reminder to always ‘negotiate joyfully’!

 

My clients and I talked about it briefly after the session, all agreeing that it was a much nicer phrase than ‘arguing’ and a more positive way of approaching difficult issues in a relationship. To be given permission to joyfully negotiate, rather than argue, immediately creates a sense of ease and comfort around any difficult issue. It suggests support, care, openness – a willingness to be heard and to hear. To come from a place of love rather than a place of defence or blame! It even suggests that it might be fun!

 

Doesn’t it sound a whole lot nicer than:

 

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“ Why do you always …..etc”

 

You know the kind of thing. Criticism. Blame. Defensive behaviour.

 

I think this lady who came through had a message for us all. Let’s stop arguing, blaming, criticizing those we love (or anybody really) and let’s joyfully negotiate!

 

This lovely, down-to-earth, lady also had a more serious message to impart.

 

It was about having the courage to speak your truth. To not hide your feelings or your true desires. There is no point hiding who we truly are or what we truly want in life. There is no point in squashing ourself in any way, shape or form.    

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 We only harm ourselves in the long run and, actually, we harm those we love and our relationships with them. If we are not being authentic, we prevent them from being authentic. We prevent our relationships from being authentic. We prevent growth and expansion. We prevent joy and love flowing freely.

 

So, let’s listen to the words of this wise loved one in Spirit.

 

Let’s all promise ourselves that we will no longer stifle our true feelings, squash whatever is in our hearts or stunt the growth of our love in this world. Let’s open our hearts to sharing our truths with those we love, and the world, as honestly yet kindly, as we possibly can.

 

As we enter in to these conversations with our loved ones, let’s open our hearts to listen, hear, speak and exchange opinions from a stance of joyful negotiation and deepest love!

 

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Thank you so much to this beautiful lady in Spirit for bringing this message forward and to my clients who agreed to let me share this phrase from their reading with you.

 

If you would like to connect with Spirit via a clairvoyant reading with me to see what their magical guidance for your life might be, please visit my Work With Karen page where you will find out about a great ‘Winter Wonder Triple Treat’ that I am offering or email: karenpackwood@gmail.com. 

Sending You Much Love,

Happy ‘ Joyful Negotiating’!

Karen

xxx

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Karen is a #1 Best Selling Author, Clairvoyant and Spiritual Healer runs wilderness retreats  specialising in healing the wounds of the inner child.  Her aim is to help her clients restore broken self esteem so that they can live life at the highest and most joyful level possible.

 

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