Indecision can be debilitating.
Indecision combined with anxiety can be excruciatingly debilitating.
In my experience, indecision and anxiety walk hand in hand with each other. When we add in fear, which is normally lurking not far from anxiety and indecision, you’ve then got a recipe for exhausting sleepless nights.
For many, the most debilitating aspect of indecision is the confusion that swirls around in the mind. It becomes impossible to ‘think straight’. The underlying question that can’t be answered is:
What is the right thing for me to do in this situation?
And therein lies the problem.
Can you see what the ‘problem’ is with this question?
For me, the difficulty comes with these words, and the expectations behind them:
Right: because it implies there is a wrong solution.
There is an inherent belief that we have to find the one and only correct ‘thing’ to solve the answer to our indecision. It creates fear around ‘getting something wrong’. Leading to concerns of:
if we get the answer wrong, what terrible outcome will follow?
There is also an implication that an action is required – you have got to ‘do’ something. Of course, that might be true. Many decisions do require us to take actions but, I believe, before we jump in to making any decisions, we should approach our indecision, and the accompanying anxiety and fear in a kinder and more gentle manner.
How would it feel if, next time you faced a chronic phase of indecision, you gave yourself this question instead:
What are the most nourishing and liberating ways forward for me with this situation?
Doesn’t that feel a lot nicer than the first question?!
Immediately we are given room to breath.
We’re given permission for the decision making process, and the solution, to be enriching and flexible in some way.
Now, what if I asked you to think of 3 delicious ways forward, or 30 even?!
THERE IS NO ‘ONE RIGHT ANSWER’!
We don’t have to think of the one right answer! We can have 3, 30 or an infinite amount of possible ways forward!
But, hang on a minute, I hear you cry! Doesn’t that just lead to more confusion and indecision?
Who needs more choices when you’re suffering from anxiety induced indecision?!
Well – here’s the thing:
The indecision has been caused because of a perceived problem in your life.
In my experience, the best way to solve a problem is to begin to become actively creative with it. To get to know it. To explore it.
To crack it open like a nut to see what goodness lies within.
But how is that different to confusion, I hear you ask again? And that leads us to:
My hunch is that if you’re someone who had difficulty making decisions, it isn’t because you can’t think of one solution to the problem, it’s because you can probably think of many possible solutions and can’t decide between them all. You’re probably, even if you don’t realise it, a highly creative thinker.
The difference between confusion and these ‘creative solutions’ is that the latter is about consciously choosing a variety of options. You are in control of the ideas flowing around in your head as opposed to vice versa. These conscious creative solutions also come from a place of positivity and empowerment as opposed to feeling out of control and disempowered.
Besides, if you have to make a decision, why not make sure you’ve consciously explored as many solutions as possible before making your final choice!
Why not open up to having some fun with the indecision.
Take a Look at the following 3 Nourishing and Conscious Ways to Explore Anxiety Induced Confusion.
Step 1: Consciously Connecting with Your Highest Wisdom
Breath in slowly ten times.
Imagine you’re sitting by a vast ocean. Feel the sea breeze upon your face. Imagine your back is resting against warm rocks, supporting you lovingly. Hear the lapping of the waves. Feel the sun on your face.
Say to yourself:
I trust completely that I will find my way forward with this decision for the greater good of all, for myself, for all those I love and for the world in general.
I know the answers lie confidently within me.
I believe in my own goodness and wisdom. I believe my soul will support me making a wise and loving decision.
I ask that the wisdom of the ocean, which represents the wisdom of my soul, to show me clearly the way forward in this situation.
I love myself. I trust myself.
Then, sit quietly. Let your body rest and your mind be at peace. Keep breathing long slow breaths.
Step 2: Consciously Releasing All Possible Solutions.
Take up a pen and piece of paper.
Before your write, breath in to your body and ask,
Please show me 10 – 30 ways in which this problem can be solved for my own highest good.
Then let yourself, without thinking too much, write those answers down.
If you don’t reach 10, don’t worry. Or, if you can think of over 30 – great! Keep going until you have exhausted every idea possible. Ignore any doubting thoughts that arise.
Step 3: Consciously Allowing the Solution to Step Forward.
Now come back to sitting peacefully with your body. Keep your eyes closed and ask:
Please can the most beneficial solution, for my highest good to this question, present itself …….
On the paper before you, write the answer down.
Don’t judge or reject it.
Sit with it.
And thank it for coming forward to you.
BUT, WHAT IF……..?
Now, I know that if you suffer from Anxiety Induced Indecision, you might then fall into complete doubt and fear of your own wisdom!
Don’t worry! In my next blog, I share how to alleviate those doubts and fears! Or read my blog: How to move from fear to confidence:
If you feel drawn to share your experiences of how this process worked for you, I’d love for you to leave a comment via the comment box below. Alternatively, feel free to email me at firstname.lastname@example.org.
Sending Much Love,
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